Awareness
Understanding Narcissistic Abuse
The wounds are invisible. The damage is real.
Narcissistic abuse doesn't leave visible bruises, which makes it easy to dismiss and hard to explain to others. But the psychological damage is profound: distorted reality, shattered self-worth, chronic anxiety, and deep confusion about what's normal. Victims often don't even recognize they're being abused because narcissists are skilled at making their behavior seem justified.
If you've been in a relationship with a narcissist, whether a spouse, parent, boss, or friend, the effects can linger long after you've gotten distance.
Patterns of Narcissistic Abuse
- Love bombing: Overwhelming attention and affection early on
- Devaluation: Gradual shift to criticism, contempt, and control
- Gaslighting: Making you doubt your own perceptions and memory
- Isolation: Cutting you off from support systems
- Blame-shifting: Everything is always your fault
- Intermittent reinforcement: Random kindness that keeps you hooked
Narcissistic abuse is designed to make you question yourself. The fact that you're confused about whether it was "that bad" is itself evidence that it was. Trust your experience. Your pain is valid.
Beginning Recovery
Name it: Recognizing abuse for what it is matters.
Get distance: Healing requires separation when possible.
Find support: Others who understand can help you see clearly.
Rebuild reality: Relearn to trust your own perceptions.
Process the grief: Mourn what you thought you had.
Your Action Steps
This week: Educate yourself on narcissistic abuse patterns.
This month: Connect with someone who understands, whether a professional or support group.
This quarter: Begin rebuilding your sense of self and reality.