Fighting for Your Marriage

Marriage is under attack. Distractions, temptations, busyness, and drift all threaten to erode what you've built. A passive man watches his marriage slowly decline. A man who fights proactively protects and strengthens it. The question is: Are you a warrior for your marriage, or have you gone AWOL?

Fighting for your marriage doesn't mean fighting with your wife. It means fighting against everything that threatens your union: complacency, selfishness, outside influences, and your own worst tendencies.

What You're Fighting Against

• Drift: The slow slide into disconnection that happens without effort
• Busyness: Work and life crowding out time for each other
• Temptation: Anything that would draw your heart away
• Selfishness: Your own tendency to put yourself first
• Complacency: Assuming things are fine when they need attention

Your marriage has enemies. Passivity, distraction, selfishness, outside influences. If you're not actively fighting for your marriage, you're passively letting it erode. There is no neutral.

What Fighting Looks Like

Pursuing her: Continuing to date, to romance, to win her heart.

Protecting time: Guarding margin for connection against all the things that would steal it.

Addressing issues: Not letting problems fester but dealing with them.

Getting help: Being willing to seek counseling when needed.

Guarding your heart: Setting boundaries that protect you from temptation.

A Warrior's Mindset

Warriors don't wait for problems. They anticipate threats and prepare for them. They don't fight only when attacked; they train constantly. Your marriage needs you to have this mindset: proactive, vigilant, committed to victory.

Your Action Steps

This week: Identify one threat to your marriage. What's eroding it right now?

This month: Take decisive action against that threat. Fight for your marriage.

This quarter: Build systems that protect your marriage proactively, not reactively.