Resources
Best Books on Boundaries
Where you end and others begin determines the health of every relationship.
Boundaries are the invisible lines that define where you end and others begin. Without them, you lose yourself in others' expectations, demands, and problems. With them, you can love others fully without losing yourself. These books will help you understand, set, and maintain healthy boundaries.
Foundational
Boundaries by Henry Cloud and John Townsend
The classic work on boundaries from a Christian perspective. Defines what boundaries are, why we need them, and how to build them in every relationship. Start here.
Set Boundaries, Find Peace by Nedra Glover Tawwab
A therapist's practical guide to boundary-setting. Direct, actionable, with scripts for common situations. Especially helpful if you struggle with guilt.
In Relationships
Boundaries in Marriage by Henry Cloud and John Townsend
Applies boundary principles specifically to marriage. Addresses what healthy and unhealthy boundaries look like between spouses.
Codependent No More by Melody Beattie
The foundational text on codependency. If you've lost yourself in caring for others, this book will help you find yourself again.
With Difficult People
Boundaries with Difficult People by Cloud and Townsend
Specific strategies for setting boundaries with people who resist them: manipulators, controllers, and those who don't respect limits.
Stop Walking on Eggshells by Paul Mason and Randi Kreger
For relationships with people who have borderline or narcissistic traits. Practical strategies for maintaining yourself while navigating difficult dynamics.
Boundaries aren't walls to keep people out. They're fences with gates that you control. You decide who gets in, when, and how far. That's not selfishness; it's stewardship of your own life.