Praying with Your Wife

Praying together is one of the most vulnerable and connecting things a couple can do. It's also one of the rarest. Many Christian couples rarely or never pray together beyond meals. It feels awkward, vulnerable, or they just don't know how to make it happen.

But couples who pray together report deeper spiritual and emotional intimacy. Prayer aligns you with each other and with God. It invites Him into your marriage in a tangible way.

Why It Matters

Spiritual intimacy: Praying together connects you at the deepest level.

Vulnerability: Hearing each other pray reveals hearts in ways conversation doesn't.

Unity: Praying together aligns your hearts toward the same things.

Inviting God in: Explicit invitation for God to work in your marriage.

It's hard to stay angry at someone you're praying with. It's hard to drift apart when you're regularly coming before God together. Prayer does something to a marriage that nothing else can.

Why Men Resist

• Vulnerability: Praying out loud feels exposed.
• Not knowing what to say: Feeling inadequate with words.
• Not a habit: It's not how you grew up or how you've operated.
• Spiritual distance: If your own prayer life is weak, praying together exposes that.

How to Start

Start simple: Hold hands, pray a few sentences each. It doesn't have to be long or eloquent.

Make it regular: Before bed, first thing in morning, whatever works. Consistency matters more than duration.

Take initiative: Lead by suggesting it, not waiting for her to ask.

Pray for each other: Pray for her needs, her concerns, her heart. Let her hear you bring her before God.

Your Action Steps

This week: Pray with your wife once. Just start.

This month: Establish a regular rhythm of praying together, even if brief.

This quarter: Make praying together a normal part of your marriage.