Marriage
Secure Attachment in Marriage
Building on your foundation of security.
Men with secure attachment are comfortable with intimacy and independence. In marriage, this shows up as emotional availability, ability to handle conflict without shutting down or escalating, and creating safety for your wife to be herself. Secure attachment isn't about being perfect; it's about being present, responsive, and reliable.
Your security is a gift to your marriage. Keep building on it.
How Secure Attachment Shows Up in Marriage
- Comfortable with closeness and independence
- Able to discuss difficult topics without shutting down
- Giving and receiving affection naturally
- Not threatened by her emotions or needs
- Trusting her without excessive checking
- Working through conflict toward resolution
Secure attachment doesn't mean you never struggle. It means you have the capacity to work through struggles while staying connected. Keep investing in what makes your marriage a safe place for both of you.
Continuing to Grow
Help her feel secure: If she has insecure attachment, be patient and consistent.
Stay curious: Keep learning about her and yourself.
Don't coast: Security is maintained, not just achieved.
Be the safe harbor: Create space for her to bring her full self.
Model for others: Your security can help others grow toward it.