Signs of Depression in Men

Men die by suicide at nearly four times the rate of women, yet they're far less likely to be diagnosed with depression. Why? Because male depression often doesn't match the textbook description. According to the National Institute of Mental Health, men experience and express depression differently.

How Depression Shows Up in Men

• Anger and irritability: Snapping at loved ones, short fuse, road rage
• Aggression: Picking fights, hostile behavior
• Risk-taking: Reckless driving, unsafe sex, dangerous activities
• Substance use: Increased drinking or drug use
• Withdrawal: Isolating from family and friends
• Workaholism: Burying yourself in work to avoid feelings
• Physical symptoms: Headaches, digestive issues, chronic pain
• Sexual dysfunction: Loss of interest or performance issues
• Fatigue: Constant exhaustion despite adequate sleep
• Emotional unavailability: Shutting down, going through the motions

Why Men Don't Seek Help

Research from the American Psychological Association shows that traditional masculine norms—toughness, self-reliance, emotional stoicism—create barriers to men recognizing and seeking help for depression.

What to Do

• Recognize that seeking help is strength, not weakness
• Talk to a doctor—start with physical symptoms if that's easier
• Consider therapy with someone who understands men
• Connect with other men who've faced similar struggles
• Address lifestyle factors: sleep, exercise, nutrition

If you're having thoughts of suicide, contact the 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline by calling or texting 988.